Is your kindness taken for granted?

I want to spend some time for myself every now and then, but you know how it is? Family, friends, everyone needs me!

Hey girl, I totally understand where you come from! You are too kind to everybody except yourself! Ouch! But that is the truth!

As women, we love nurturing others. Our children need a lot of our attention – sometimes even after they grow up! While they are young, we have to a taxi service – pick up and drop off at classes. Our partners need us to do things for them, if you have extended family, they need your time. Add on domestic chores, and on top of it all if you are a working parent, the list is endless..

To save your sanity, the first thing you need to learn is to say the magic word – “NO”.

How many of us (women), take on tasks just because we are asked to and we don’t want to offend the other person?

We all need to learn to delegate tasks. At home, get your children to help with dishes and laundry. Sit with your partner and talk to him about how stressed you are and that you need some help. Family do understand when you are stressed and ask for help.

Delegate tasks ruthlessly. Get a cleaner! Ask yourself what deserves your time and what can someone else do?

Sometimes, it is not even the household work!

Our friends may take advantage of our ‘yes’ mentality – can you please do this, can you please do that – and by the time you know, your diary is filled with other people’s tasks.

The best way to understand how much you are doing, is to be aware. Try to slot in tasks that you can in your diary – this gives you a clear picture of how much time you have free.

Make sure you have at least 1 hour slotted everyday for yourself. I understand this may be hard based on your life and work, but if not daily, make sure you slot in at least 1 – 2 hours every week for yourself.

During this time, you can either do things you love or best of all – do nothing!

Do you think it is hard to slot some time for yourself? I would love to hear your thoughts.