A young woman inherited a gorgeous garden from her grandmother. She loved gardening and was proud of her garden. One day, she saw a beautiful plant in a catalogue and wanted to grow it in her garden. She ordered it and planted it at the base of the stonewall in her backyard. She took great care of the plant and it grew quickly with lush green leaves.
Months passed but not a single flower bloomed on the tree. Vexed, she almost wanted to cut the plant down. At such a time, her physically challenged neighbour called and said, “Thank you so much for the beautiful flowers. You have no idea how much I enjoy looking at the blooms of the vine you have planted”.
Hearing this, the woman rushes to the neighbour’s side of the wall and sees the most beautiful flowers in bloom. All the care she took had paid off. Only the vine had crept through the crevices because of which it did not flower on her side of the wall but did generously on the other side.
Moral of the story: Just because you cannot see the good results of your efforts does not mean that it bore no fruit.
Just like the woman in the story, I used to tie my sense of achievement to ticking off all the to-do’s on my list. Now, I’m learning that not all my to-do’s may come true or even happen as fast as I want them to. That doesn’t mean that I’m not achieving anything.
While I’m trusting the Universe, I know that tasks appear for me – sometimes out of nowhere and I’ve learnt to trust my intuition. I know that the only thing I need to do is to take action, but without expectations. That is the key.
The delicate balance between achieving my goals and also trusting the Universe, living in the now is something I’m learning every day. Trusting that the Universe knows what I want, that is something I’m getting good at.
Life sometimes will not happen at the speed that I want it to happen or the way I want it to happen. I have seen this often with my work projects. I would have a deadline to get something done and when it goes past the due date, I would have felt like a failure, that I have let myself down. Now, through my practices, I’ve realised that as long as I have put one foot in front of the other and there is some progress and I have not procrastinated, I can celebrate that.
In February, I also got to read ‘The Big Leap’ by Gay Hendricks and I have to tell you – it blew my mind. Here’s my biggest take away. Gay mentions that we all have an ‘upper limit problem’ that holds us back. Each of us have an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves and go back to the old familiar, secure zone.
You’ve got to read this book if you feel that when things are going perfectly well, something happens to sabotage it – be it work, your relationships or money.
Here is a mantra I’m sharing from that book
“I expand in abundance, love and success every day as I inspire those around me to do the same”.
I’ve been interviewed a couple of times this month. One of my interviews can be watched at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yh9ZJE9Ltjk&t=1200s
February has been another month of learning and growing. How was your month? Feel free to share with me.
P.S. I am launching my coaching program in June/July. I will share details of it soon and it will be a pilot program with a small group of women. If you are interested, touch base with me.